So many mixed signals, zero boundaries,  animal neglect, and of course a bet. This week we are talking about 2003 Rom-Com How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days starring Kate Hudson & Matthew McConaughey.

Today we’re diving into the final discussion of everyone’s favorite game of love and deception, “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days.”

In this episode, we’re unpacking the film’s portrayal of attachment styles, the troubling tropes it perpetuates, and the fantasy vs. reality of rom-com relationships. 

Together, we’ll debunk the myth of the “cool girl” and question the slew of unrealistic expectations set by the characters.

We’ll also explore the missed opportunity for a more authentic resolution, calling out the need for real, nuanced conversations instead of flashy, empty gestures.

Are the main characters truly compatible, or is it just Hollywood’s magic at work? We’ll confront the classic romantic conundrum – should grand gestures seal the deal, or is it time for rom-coms to get real?

Join us as we navigate these tropes and more, looking at everything from family dynamics and attachment theory to the symbolic love fern (will it ever survive?).

Plus, Kira shares some fascinating trivia about the film’s iconic yellow dress and muses over potential casting scenarios.

Where to watch for free: Showtime
Read the Transcript here.

⏱️ Let’s Dig in!

Article Kira mentioned – Read here

0:00 Intro
2:19 First Impressions
8:30 The Problem with Cool Girl
11:37 Worst Love Lessons
37:31 Boundary problems
49:53 Attachment Style Basics
57:33 The Deep Dive – Attachment Styles vs Gender Tropes
1:05:56 Weird body shaming
1:10:18 Ending Rewrite
1:17:31 Trivia
1:20:42 Favorite Characters
1:22:11 Would they last?



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